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Letter: We Must Take a Stand Against Misandry
June 15, 2005

Let me remind the reader of certain values every democracy holds. That includes the belief that all humans are created equal, that collective guilt or punishment is unfair, and freedom of expression. Unfortunately with the rise of misandry - viewing men as villains, oppressors and potential rapists -- these values are on the way of disappearing completely.

Misandry is so prevalent, that in our age of diversity saying that all men bear collective guilt for rape is considered progressive. Male bashing cards are everywhere. TV commercials portray men as fools. Our media censors male domestic violence victims in order to portray us as batterers and abusers. While violence against women on TV is denounced, revenge fantasies in which hundreds of man are cut up, castrated and tortured are blockbusters. Sin City got $33M in sales the first weekend it was released. Ireen von Wachenfeldt, chairman of ROKS, The National Organization for Women's Shelters and Young Women's Shelters in Sweden, denied us our humanity by claiming on TV that men are animals.

Many of us consider misandry a harmless game. But unfortunately hatred in words leads to discrimination in action. About 100,000 men in US are in jail at any given time for inability to pay child support. Any man who slaps a woman would face a choice between a year in jail or 72 hours of "reeducation", yet women slapping men is considered harmless fun by most. Our media encourages ladies to kick men in private parts, yet a man who commits such act of sexual assault would be given a life sentence divided between prison "treatment" and other supervision. Male victims of domestic violence get very little help and are frequently treated as perpetrators. You should read The Myth of Male Power and Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say to find out more about antimale discrimination in modern world.

Many of us would ask what is the cause of the prevalent misandry, and what we can do about it. Many men and women believe that men at least partially deserve the modern misandry - and that the best way for us to deal with it is to ignore it. I believe that approach is 100% wrong. I do not believe anyone deserves to be blamed for belonging to a birth group -- everyone is created equal.

The main reason for the rise of misandry is not the fact that we commit some crimes more then women - Americans commit much more crime than Japaneese, people with depression commit more crimes then the non-depressed, etc. Yet in the Twenty-First Century, "men" is the only group singled out for demonisation and scapegoating.

The perception of men is as the "fair game" or the softest target - someone who can be ridiculed, insulted or demonised for fun. In this day and age of cruel and violent entertainment industry, even more people consider it fun to be cruel to someone. Yet anyone who tries attacking a race or attacking women via public media would soon find themselves stopped by virulent counterarguments, protests and possibly lawsuits. The fact that there is no such resistance from men makes all forms of male-bashing fun and profitable.

We may think that the fad of male-bashing and anti-male discrimination may pass by itself, but unfortunately, that is not the case. Without a very vocal protest, anti-male hate and discrimination can only increase. Both male bashing and anti-male discrimination grew a lot between 1985 and 1995, and grew more between 1995 and 2005. There is no reason to think that the growth of these factors will be any less this or next decade. We may think that misandrists will not try to be more cruel than they are, but history will prove us wrong. If we look at the history of American slavery we will see how cruel people can be to those who can not speak up for themselves. Given that that much cruelty was shown in the generations much closer to our forefathers and US Constitution and raised on religious values of universal love, we can only imagine our generation's capacity for cruelty.

Hence, our society has to address this problem as soon as possible. I believe that men and women who value our rights should be as vocal on the issue as possible. We should write letters to newspaper editors, call in to our local radio shows, and those of us who are students speak up in classes and at events, and post fliers on public bulletin boards protesting vilification of men. Given that many men resent being demonised and many women do not dislike men, if we have courage to speak up, we will gather lots of support.

Mike Shubov

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